Y’know, if I were an adult in fandom who was looking to get close to a bunch of kids and teenagers for grooming/manipulation/power game purposes, I’d totally do it by being a Protective Fandom Mom/Dad in a fandom aimed at young people.
Set up a blog about how against the various problematic ships in that fandom I am, how the other adults in the fandom clearly aren’t taking the concerns of younger fans seriously, while I obviously DO take them seriously because I’m not one of those gross problematic adults.Maybe help the young people lead a witchhunt against other adults to drive them out of the fandom.
I wouldn’t be surprised if someone did that at all.
You can tell from the reaction of the antis to this post that it hit a big damn nerve.
It’s not uncommon that someone who’s been vehemently vocal against harassment, rape, CSA, etc. turns out to be a missing stair. I wonder how many antis will have been outed as abusers a few years down the line.
Several of my loyal haters fit this description all too well. Also if you are one of the young people on here lurking to report back to your “fandom mom” what the big bad BGWP has said now, then they’ve already done their job. You’ve already been groomed to support their toxic behavior. And that’s disturbing to me. You should be disturbed too. Antis are NOT your friend.
I repeat, antis are NOT your friend.
I’ve a friend who’s an ex-anti and who also knows former antis and…yeah. I’ve witnessed antis online and also heard first hand how insidious the behavior is and it genuinely disturbs me.
yeah, cronusamporaa, who got their underage friend to kick off the ‘roach is a pedo’ thing in the first place, was later found to be emotionally abusing and having sexually explicit conversations with kids as young as 13. as well as being well into his twenties, despite trying to portray himself as ‘one of the kids’. to absolutely no one’s surprise who was paying attention.
antis in their early-to-mid teens are understandable. you can sympathize with their innocent desire to make the world a better place, and at least shrug off their not-so-innocent desire to be the bully instead of the bullied. but antis in their twenties? keep a sharp eye on them, because something’s gone really wrong.
honestly if ur an introvert ur probably better off befriending some extroverts bc having a whole squad of introverts is fine at first but eventually you end up never doing anything with them ever especially after you finish school bc ur all fine being loners and low maintenance friends that just tag each other in memes and snapchat each other which is nice but sometimes i wanna leave my house instead of binge watching spongebob squarepants you need balance in ur squad you need to have people who are gonna motivate the squad to be social
every squad needs at least one friend who will pull their car up outside and scream “get in losers we’re going to the mall”
Why do people hang out in malls?
It’s fun to window-shop, sometimes they have cafes
also: there’s air conditioning, they will tolerate groups of teenagers hanging around for extended periods and chatting noisily without necessarily even spending money, sometimes they have movie theaters
Different but somewhat related: make sure there’s at least one person in your regular group who can make decisions. If you have five people all trying not to make anyone else unhappy, then you’ll never do anything. If you have trouble with this: when someone tells you they don’t care, believe them. If they then go along with your plan while secretly seething that you didn’t read their mind, then either you’re friends with a five-year-old or it is absolutely not your problem.
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