i wanna fuck dudes, and i don’t hate this fact that i desire intimacy with men, and that i overall find men attractive. i’ll gladly be that kinda bisexual that admits this. in fact, what i just said applies to any gender alignment tbh.
It feels almost shameful to be a queer woman who is attracted to men in this goddamn site.
and it’s like, as if i don’t have this problem irl myself? like if i wanna donate blood they’d potentially ask me if i’ve had sex with men, and if i say yes they’d deny me donating blood.
and like, if we’re not going to be absolute idiots here, who somehow think this is the appropriate time to misgender me and think of my identity as ingenuine. my existence is namely within this category.
something something intersectionality.
like, i’m a queer woman, and i’m most definitely discriminated against for my attraction to men, and it’s not because who i’m not, it’s because of who i am. and that is this neat little “queer” basket i can jump into.
anyway, there’s so many scenarios people are discriminated against for being into men in one way or another, that it just isn’t really tasteful to think in an lgbtq+ context it’s suddenly fine to do such things as discriminating or shaming others.
mainstream lgbtq+ discourse is woefully cis-centric and has very little room for trans/nb experiences and that’s why you end up with a tonne of paradoxical nonsense where trans/nb people are simultaneously victims of transphobia/exorsexism that manifests often by denying us the definition of our own genders and treating us like sub-cis (and therefore sub-human) people, and at the same time we have privilege that would only exist if we were being accepted as our genders and treated exactly like cis people
it’s faulty logic that wouldn’t happen if social justice stuff had been built from the ground up to accommodate us instead of just cis people and honestly if people just shut up and listened to real life experiences instead of making the theory first and then trying to cram reality in to fit it and acting like people pointing out the inconsistencies are trying to muscle in on stuff they’ve no right to or just being assholes for no reason
it’s just a load of cliquish bullying crap trying to masquerade as something deeper tbh like by implying or outright saying trans ppl in m/f relationships (or even nb ppl in nb/m or nb/w relationships) have some kind of serious material priv over cis lgb+ people or are just gross and worthless in general you’re striking at the heart and source of oppression like. nah you’re just being rude to other oppressed people to feel good about yourself? you’re just making other ppl with marginalised attraction feel even worse about it.
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